How To Love Yourself

Learning how to love yourself is a key ingredient for happiness. Self-love is at the very core of wellbeing, joy, self-empowerment, and our ability to enjoy the kind of life we want. Even if you had everything else in your life exactly the way you wanted it, you wouldn't be able to enjoy it if you weren't at peace with yourself.

Besides that, every relationship you ever have with someone else exactly mirrors one or more aspects of the relationship you have with yourself.

What Are The Effects Of Not Loving Yourself?

Not knowing how to love yourself can be severely debilitating. At the very least, you’re plagued by indecision and self-doubt. In more intense cases there is depression and self-hatred, which cripples you in every area of your life. Self-focused negativity obscures our awareness of our Oneness with Life Force, our connection with all that IS.

Until you know how to love yourself there will be an inner mental war going on within that creates the experience of dividing your energy and sabotaging your efforts to enjoy life.

Additionally, if you feel separate from your own love you will attract people and circumstances that mirror your negative beliefs and feelings about yourself. By the Law of Attraction it couldn’t be any other way. We experience the manifestations of what we FEEL and have attention on. So, in order for you to experience loving people and circumstances, you need to know how to love yourself first.

We Already ARE Love

Ultimately, we already ARE love. We are Pure Awareness, the field of Love that everything appears in. Just as waves arise within an ocean, the experience of a body, thoughts, feelings, and all within our lives arise as vibrations within us, Awareness.

When we identify with being a separate wave rather than the entire ocean, we suffer. Inherent in believing we are separate is the feeling of lack and incompleteness. If we really believe all we are is a separate part – a composite of just our body, perceptions, thoughts, feelings, etc. – it is actually that belief of being separate that keeps us feeling disconnected from love. To truly know love, we just need to become aware that we are not just a separate part. As the wave is to the ocean, we are the wave, and we are also the entire ocean that the wave arises in.

You make think you need to LEARN how to love yourself, but actually the most direct way to love yourself is to turn your attention inward to yourSelf, the Presence that you are that is simply here, and already IS love.

How To Experience Yourself As Love – Pure Awareness

Let your eyes focus on an object. Now, rather than attentively engaging with the object, with your eyes still resting on it, let them soften. Un-focus them. Feel yourself as this that is simply here. Ask yourself, "Am I here?" Feel the you that says "Yes." The you that is simply here. Rest in this you. You don't have to ADD anything to yourself to be All that is, to be Oneness. Just shift attention to this transparent you that is simply here, pure aware energy, already One, already Love.

This you that is simply here, has ALWAYS been here. If you look back through all your experiences, the common denominator of all of them is YOU. This simple experience of knowing ourselves in this way is always here but our attention is usually directed away from ourSelf and is instead centered on thoughts, emotions, body sensations and circumstances.

This is like a body of water that has debris floating on the surface. The debris in this metaphor is made up of the thoughts, emotions, and perceptions of being a body. If we keep our attention on the debris we won't notice that we are the water. The rest of it is just stuff floating through.

However, even when our attention is on the thoughts, emotions, and identifications with being a body, the Presence that we are is still in the background of our attention. We are always here. Even if we don't know WHAT we are, we do know that we are here.

I recommend doing the exercise above at least once every day, and even better, several times a day! At first it is best to do it while you're just sitting quietly so you can learn to focus. Later, I invite you to do it while doing other things, like going for a walk or talking to a friend. Just check in with yourself and ask "Am I here?" And BE this you that is simply here.

This simple, present, Aliveness that is you already IS love. It is only when you identify with being the "debris floating on the surface" that you'll think you need to do something to learn how to love yourself, or have something added to you, such as having someone else love you to be complete.

As this Presence that we are, we occupy the same space with Love, God, with All That Is. We are One continuous energy field.

Awakening to the Truth of who we are and enlightenment are believed to be events that only happen to the special few, and that something is somehow added to us in the process. Instead, awakening is the simple shifting of attention from the debris to the water!

While it is important to affirm and visualize the perfect job opportunity coming your way, it is equally important to take action. Just as you will never win anything in the lottery if you don’t buy a ticket, you won’t find the perfect job if you don’t get out there and actively look for it.

The Law of Attraction works, but you need to meet it half way. Nothing happens without action. You need to create an inspiring resume and ensure that it lands on the desks of all your chosen prospects. You need to get out into the job market and get seen (This will thoroughly be discussed on Chapter 4). Use your affirmations to keep you motivated and moving in a positive direction.

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Jomel is an Online Engineer who works at home to generate extra income. He is one of your reliable guide to best and effective Business Lifestyle Strategies for Engineers

Philippians 4:13
I can do all this through Christ who gives me strength.