Hate Your Job? Maybe It’s You, Not Them
Discover Why Sometimes It’s Not Them, It’s You. Is It Your Job That Needs To Change? Or You? Perhaps in the past you have been unhappy in other jobs; your bosses were rude, you felt uninspired and your work colleagues wore you down. So you moved jobs. However, as the weeks turned into months you began to notice the same negative patterns emerging; the same rude bosses, mundane tasks and irritating colleagues… Is this a pattern that you recognise? Then perhaps it’s time to face the music and consider this – that perhaps it’s not your job that is the problem? That in fact, the problem is you.
Similarly to everything else in your life, your job is what you make it. Therefore, if your goal is to be happy no matter what your job, then you need to turn your attentions inwards and work on yourself first.
This means ridding yourself of any beliefs, thought patterns and pre-conceptions about work that will have been undoubtedly lowering your emotional frequency all of this time. For example, you may have always thought of work as something to be ‘endured’ and ‘tolerated’; a necessity that you have to grit your teeth through every Monday – Friday, before you are finally ‘freed’ for the weekend.
Sound familiar to you? Then these are undoubtedly issues that are going to be weighing you down in negativity and creating the reality that you do not want to be creating.
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Your Job Is What You Make It
A lot of people mistakenly believe that once they have identified their passion, got all of the necessary qualifications/income/contacts together and secured their dream job, that they are guaranteed a life of absolute working joy.
This is not true. The same as with every area of your life, no matter what you external circumstances or situation, if you do not have the correct attitude and have not worked on laying the emotional groundwork that is needed within yourself first, then you will never be happy.
There is no ‘one day’ or far off haven in the form of a highly paid, minimum effort, passionate career waiting for you . Your happiness today is what is important, if not more so, so you need to work on what’s going to make you happy right now in the job that you are in today.
Start feeling good about the job you are in now and raise your energies and attitude to ones of sky-high positivity and who knows what the universe can manifest for you – maybe it will be a big pay-off in the job you are currently in, or even incredible happiness in a career you are passionate about elsewhere – but you will never find out, unless you learn to feel good about the job that you are in right now.
Fake It Until You Make It
Learning to love something that clearly makes you unhappy is not often a recommendation. But when you are trying to learn (or even ‘accept’ will do) something that is already a part of your life in order to raise your positivity, increase your happiness and boost your manifesting abilities – then it can be considered acceptable.
Here are 4 great tips for upping your positivity at work;
1. Stop moaning.
The first thing that you need to do is quit with the complaining. When you complain, you’re only serving to fuel your negativity and lower your energies, keeping you stuck in a cycle of recreating the reality that is currently making you so unhappy.
2. Make friends.
Start to feel some love for the people that surround you every day. Forming good relationships with the people that you see day in, day out, can help to significantly improve how you feel about going to work every day. At first, try and focus your attentions on the people that are easiest to be around; save the tough ones for when you’re well-practiced in your new-found positivity.
3. Look for the positives.
Whether it’s only the quality of the coffee served, the fact that your offices are only a 5 minute walk from your home or the awesome view from the window next to your desk – the more positives you look for in your job, the more positives you should begin to notice. It doesn’t matter how many positives you can think of at first, as long as you focus on these. Your task for now is solely to raise your frequency; do this and you should begin to notice more and more positives cropping up everywhere.
4. Celebrate the evidence!
Noticed any improvements in the work place, changes in circumstances or improved feelings of happiness? If you discover this to be the case – then celebrate it! Celebrating evidence of the law of attraction working in your life and the positive impact that your thoughts are having on your reality, is key for boosting this already big thing to even greater heights. Feel proud of yourself – the changes that you are beginning to see in your life were all a direct result of you.
Let your work slip for one moment and before you know it you would be back to your old negative self, falling deeper into the pit of despair that you had only just managed to escape.
Pay attention to how you are feeling and use your emotions as a gauge to help keep you on track. Feeling positive about the future and looking forward to work in the morning? Then keep up the good work! Find yourself irritated by your colleagues and are lacking motivations at work? Then your energies are still in need of some work.
Feel better and your environment can begin to change to better accommodate you. It may come in the form of a pay rise, or learning that the colleague that gave you such a hard time has resigned, or maybe even being invited to work elsewhere from a more promising, outside company?
No job in the world has the potential to make you happy; only you have the power to do that.
Many jobs may come and go in your life, but your happiness needs to stay – for good.
Here's Why So Many People Hate Their Jobs
After several years of working, you'll probably feel locked in, or that your job options are limited. Especially if you feel like you are doing well financially, you'll also perceive high risk in switching careers, and it is likely you can end up doing the same thing for the rest of your life.
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You are influenced by extrinsic motivation.
Psychological research shows that the fact you are getting paid makes you more likely to dislike your job. It's called cognitive dissonance: people will evaluate the pleasure they receive from an activity as lower when they are rewarded with material goods like money because it makes the activity seem unpleasant. In other words, the presence of a salary creates a negative motivation, which makes people like the work less than if they were to do it for free.
You feel like you are working for the wrong reasons.
One of the most common reasons is following money. For example, you might force yourself to go against your nature and attend law school if you really want to be a sculptor. However, the idea is similar to living with someone you dislike: it may be tolerable for a few months, but not for your whole life.
You are not living up to your potential.
You feel like you settled for mediocrity and that you are failing yourself, because you know you could do a lot better if you worked in a different profession or pursued your dream job. You also might feel like you are not improving or learning as much as you could from your job.
You feel like your job lacks meaning.
It goes against our basic human nature to do something for eight hours just to get money. You feel like what you're doing doesn't matter to you, your coworkers, or to your company. Instead, your efforts feel like busy work just to fill time. You don't have real motivation to do much, and find yourself quickly losing interest in your job. It is difficult to throw an immense amount of time into a pursuit you don't care about.
You feel obligated to work.
People hate anything you're forced to do day after day, month after month, year after year. If someone forced you to do even your most loved hobby for a consistent period of time, you would probably grow to hate it, too. Most people don't hate their jobs, but rather the fact that they are forced to work — the obligation takes the fun away.
You don't feel in control.
Job satisfaction comes from a sense of autonomy. If you feel disempowered, it probably sucks the energy out of you, even if you are well-paid and educated. Also, when you feel like your work is being judged by how closely it meets someone's expectations and that you are constantly taking orders, you'll feel subordinate and grow increasingly frustrated.
You work too much.
This type of lifestyle is especially apparent in bankers, lawyers, doctors, and other rigorous professions. The problem isn't always the work or the clients — rather, it's overwhelming to be on call 24/7 and to work 6-7 days a week. Everything ends up feeling like high drama. It's too much for people who want more out of life than just money.
You procrastinate on the important things.
When you have a big task hanging over your head, you will be uncomfortable until it gets done. If you don't tackle the worst tasks first, it will be difficult to move on to the more enjoyable aspects of your job.
Your job lacks stability.
Instead of knowing for sure that years of excellent work will automatically give you a promotion, you have no idea what the future holds. Since your job brings you a constant state of uncertainty, you begin to associate it with negative feelings. It's very hard for you to work well with the fear of dismissal hanging over your head and without any rules to follow to stop it from happening.
You place a heavy emphasis on work.
If work is the only thing your life revolves around, then everything related to work will impact you deeply, whether it's conflict with your colleagues or lack of a decent salary. Make sure you distinguish between working to live and living to work.
You live too far or too close to your job.
If your daily commute is longer than an hour, you'll spend roughly ⅙ or ⅛ of your day traveling to and from your job. It's almost as if your commute is a mini job of its own. If you live too close to your job, then it feels like you never leave.
You don't like your boss.
A great boss can make you feel great about doing anything, because he/she has your back, looks out for you, and makes the work all worthwhile. But a bad boss easily ruins it. They can make you feel worthless, regardless of your salary, title, and office size. It seems that the US business system is great at creating managers who can look at challenges and come up with solutions. However, it is terrible at creating leaders, or people with strong social skills who can inspire others to do outstanding work.
You don't use your non-work hours effectively.
If you don't have balance in cultivating your personal interests or spending time with family outside of work, you might start to feel extremely unhappy. You should not let your employment define you or what you love, so you should pursue interests outside of the office to remember there is so much more to life.
You have higher standards.
These days, the way we evaluate jobs has significantly shifted. People hate their jobs because now, more than ever, there's the possibility to love their jobs — and you don't. When you expect your work to be fulfilling or as a source of happiness, then it's much easier for it to be unsatisfactory. Even the media portrays people loving their jobs everywhere around you, and it makes it seem like people who don't enjoy their jobs are failures.
You have the wrong mindset.
According to Cal Newport, you should try to adopt the craftsman mindset, which asks you to leave behind selfish concerns about whether your job is ideal for you, and instead work at getting really good at one thing. No one owes you a great career — you need to earn it, and the process won't be easy. If you want to love what you do, abandon the question of, "what can the world offer you?" and instead think, "what can you offer the world?"
You don't have perspective.
In third world countries, people work extremely hard in physically taxing labor to make minimal wages. Having a relatively easy and cushy job for a middle class income isn't so hard in comparison. A demanding boss or small office space is nothing compared to the systemic oppression others experience. Perhaps you don't yet know the value of what you have.
CHAPTER 1: THE INCREDIBLE HUMAN POTENTIAL
CHAPTER 2: EMBRACE THE POWER OF LAW OF ATTRACTION
CHAPTER 3: THE JOB SEEKERS’ HEALTH AND WELLNESS
CHAPTER 4: RIGHT TOOLS, RIGHT ATTITUDE AND SKILLS
CHAPTER 5: DO NOT DEPEND ON YOURSELF
CHAPTER 6: PROVIDE VALUE TO OTHERS FIRST
I can do all this through Christ who gives me strength.
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